Sunday, March 6, 2011

Getting Off On The Wrong Foot

Get off on the right foot!

I believe firmly that everyone knows a person they are probably very fond of whom they may have had a bad first impression. We all get off on the wrong foot with someone in our life; it really tends to happen more often than not. I know I got off on the wrong foot with plenty of people. Our very own Enigma and I almost didn’t hit it off because of me and the way I presented myself on several different levels. The more I think back, the more I realize I’ve made some very bad first impressions; or over-thought the impression others were having on me, and that has been my Achilles Heel in my life, to be honest.

I tend to associate with the familiar, and I’m sure most people are familiar with the same. Very rarely do we break out of our comfort zones in search of friends, acquaintances, spouses. I’ve had misunderstandings over unspecified jokes or remarks that led me to feel as though someone was completely different than they are. I know myself that being judged in that light by others never feels good, so I don’t feel particularly well about myself doing it with others.

The point I’m trying to make is that it’s never easy to get off on the right foot if you’re accustomed to getting off on the wrong foot. I think back to when I was growing up playing basketball and my uncle was trying to teach me how to dunk, and I also go back to skateboarding. With skating, I rode goofy, but I’m right-handed… so people tended to think oddly of my stance. But I didn’t find any comfort riding regular, goofy was how I was comfortable. I learned quickly that if I rode regular, I wasn’t “getting off on the right foot”, I couldn’t control myself. With basketball and jumping, I was more comfortable leaping from my left foot, even though I knew myself that I had more strength and power coming off of my right leg where I could enhance the height of my jump. It felt wrong to jump from the right, but it wasn’t difficult and it paid off… I taught myself to jump from my right foot.

Why do I find this worth mentioning? It’s easy, to be honest. I want to increase my jump, but I want to skate comfortably… so I need to distinguish which is the right foot to get off on. Do I continue just being me and hoping I’m not offending people or taking someone too seriously? Or do I break from my comfort zone, give people the benefit of the doubt, and show a little more trust?

Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments or hit me up on Twitter @Sean_Bishop, maybe you’ll even teach yourself something…